When Do You Give a Push Present? Timing and Etiquette
The push present, a gift given to a new mother after childbirth to celebrate the arrival of her baby, has become increasingly popular. But the timing of this thoughtful gesture can be a source of confusion. Let's delve into the etiquette surrounding when to give a push present and address some frequently asked questions.
When is the best time to give a push present?
There's no single "right" time, but generally, the most common and appreciated time is after the baby is born. This could be anytime from a few days postpartum after the mother and baby are settled at home, to a few weeks later, when she's feeling a little more recovered.
The key is to consider the mother's circumstances and well-being. Avoid gifting a push present during labor or immediately after, as this can be a stressful and unpredictable time. Waiting until she's had a chance to recover and adjust to motherhood allows her to truly appreciate the gift.
Should the push present be given in the hospital?
While well-meaning, giving a push present in the hospital is generally discouraged. The hospital environment can be hectic and uncomfortable for a new mother. She's likely focused on recovering and bonding with her newborn. A visit at this time, even with a gift, might be overwhelming or disruptive.
Is it okay to give the push present before the baby is born?
While less traditional, some couples choose to exchange gifts before the baby arrives. However, this is less common and is often seen as a less meaningful gesture, as it doesn't directly celebrate the birth itself. A baby shower, for instance, typically covers pre-birth gifts. A push present is specifically tied to the accomplishment of childbirth.
What if I forgot to give a push present?
Don't worry! It's not a catastrophic event to miss the immediate postpartum window. You can still present the gift within the first few months of the baby's life. A heartfelt explanation about your delay would make it even more meaningful.
What if I can't afford an expensive push present?
The value of the gift is far less important than the thoughtfulness behind it. A heartfelt, handwritten card expressing your joy and congratulations, coupled with a more modest gift (such as a beautiful piece of jewelry, a cozy blanket, or a gift certificate for a massage), is far more significant than the price tag.
Who gives a push present: the partner or other family/friends?
Traditionally, the push present is given by the baby's father, as a way to celebrate his partner's journey and strength during childbirth. However, it's become increasingly acceptable for other family members or close friends to give a smaller, more symbolic gift as well. The sentiment is what counts.
Ultimately, the best time to give a push present is when it feels most appropriate for the recipient. Consider her comfort level, her recovery process, and the overall circumstances. The most important aspect is that the gift comes from the heart and expresses genuine appreciation for the mother's incredible journey.
